Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Which child...?

My grandma cut this article out of the newspaper and gave it to me today.

http://www.deseretnews.com/article/705394839/Which-child-has-the-disability.html
(Be sure to read both pages)

I read it and felt a wave of many different emotions in a very short period of time.
I felt angry, appalled, reminiscent, sad, and then grateful.
I will never forget the day, just before Christmas in 2004, when Phillip and I sat in the doctor's office and we were told our precious little girl would be born with
Spina Bifida.
 As if that isn't enough to bear, I will never forget the moments following when the genetic counselor asked if we wanted to continue with the pregnancy.
WHAT?!
Of course we would!
And we would give birth to our child and love her with everything we have, treat her with all the kindness and love that we treated our other daughter, and give her the best life possible.

It saddens me, and frightens me, that a woman can take a "simple blood test" and decide that her unborn child isn't perfect enough for her, then end that child's life before it even began! I appreciate the question this article poses...
"What is the definition of a disabled child?...The one who cannot love or the one who cannot perform calculus?"

I am grateful every day for my "disabled" child.
So what if she doesn't read as well as the school says she should?
So what if it takes her longer to do her schoolwork?
So what if she has to turn her head in strange positions to see clearly?
So what if she gets a little emotional at recess because she didn't have a chance to tell her sister that she loves her?

 Her capacity to love and forgive is far greater than I could ever hope to have. Thank you, Grace, for teaching me the important things in life.

I love you, my special child

2 comments:

wjmom said...

I wasn't in the doctor's office, and I didn't know you, but I remember that time, too. Even before I knew you and Phillip, I knew you as loving, faith-filled people. Thank goodness for Gracie and her beautiful, kind sisters and their wonderful, wonderful parents!

Suzie said...

I'm bawling...this brought back a lot of emotion for me. I was scared for you and Phil. Something I never thought my older sister would ever in my shallow mind at the time, have to "deal" with. But as I have watched you and Phil parent sweet Grace it has been one of the most beautiful things I've ever witnessed. She is the greatest example to me in my life of love. And to think that some people would have missed the oppurtunity to have a child as special as grace because of their own fear or selfishness is sickening. I am thankful for that sweet child of yours everyday! She truly does teach all of us the important things in life. Love ya Mar!